Tuesday, August 3, 2010

This is heart-breaking but more enraging

Here's one more of a list of gazillion studies that says men in general are weak in mind and body. I read that men are more likely to leave their wives/get divorced if they fall sick, whereas women stand by their husbands. This is more so if women are cancer patients.

One study done by an oncologist Dr. Chamberlain of the neuro-oncology division at the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center says, "When the man became ill, only 3 percent experienced the end of a marriage. But among women, about 21 percent ended up separated or divorced. Among couples who split up, divorce occurred, on average, about six months after the diagnosis, although there was wide variability in the timing."

“All these patients were couples when we met them, but we don’t know about pre-diagnosis marital conflicts that had been festering,” Dr. Chamberlain said. “But the striking part is with life-threatening illness, how often women are abandoned compared to men. That does not speak very well of my gender.”

How feeble can men be! This is the sort of thing that enrages me. What about the vows of marriage in sickness and in health? Why do men get married? Only for taking care of their needs such as cooking, cleaning, bringing up kids, paying bills, doing all the work at home, bringing in the money (of course, the wife needs to have a career too!), as well as needs in the bedroom?

Men out there- if you are reading this you are welcome to participate in the dialogue and speak for your kind.

2 comments:

  1. Vidya Swamy,
    Men and Women both fail to support their spouses during the most difficult times. I am a man and once lived a life of quiet desperation. I was struck down by an illness and was not given one once of support. I have not verified your statistics but can assure you being alone is better than being in a DEAD Marriage.

    When someone does not support you and even nurture you through sickness and health it is time to fly. Life is short.

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  2. I agree with your responses.

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